My New Years Resolution, this year, was inspired by a woman I met during The Ride Festival back in July. She was shopping in my tent and I commented on her tattoo- "Lightly My Darling". She explained that it came from a poem, but that her father used to tell her that when she was upset or sad or heartbroken. I was busy slinging headbands so I couldn't google it right then, but a few hours later, she came back, with the poem pulled up on her phone, and shared it with my sister and I, giving us both teary eyes and chills.
"It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them. I was so preposterously serious in those days, such a humorless little prig. Lightly, lightly – it’s the best advice ever given me…So throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to suck you down into fear and self-pity and despair. That’s why you must walk so lightly. Lightly my darling, on tiptoes and no luggage, not even a sponge bag, completely unencumbered.
– Aldous Huxley, Island "
"Lightly my darling"... When I am feeling too much, too deeply or too harshly, to just lightly love and lightly let be. This is not something that comes easy to me. In general, I dive in head first, love fiercely and have a hard time letting go of relationships, friendships or situations, even when they cause me pain. I will work hard to "fix" things that I shouldn't, and sometimes to the point of making it worse.
For me "lightly" doesn't mean that I need to love any less or not as fiercely. I probably couldn't if I tried. It does not mean to give up on love or people. Instead it inspires me to react more lightly, more with love. I am proud of my heart and my love for my people, battered and sewn back up, as it sometimes may be. Lightly for me, is to not try so hard to control the outcome or to fix everything and everyone else.
To treat my own heart more lightly and with care, I have to throw away my baggage and lightly go forward. To have the kind of love I want, and give the kind of love I want to give, I have to give up control.
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Sistas, No matter what, your worth ALWAYS includes love. Throw away the old baggage, and lightly, my darling, and with worth, LOVE.
Lots of love and light (ly)